American students' concern for freedom lies in two patterns of behavior that Chinese students often notice: an unwillingness to make social commitments and vague and changing definitions in acquaintanceships, friendships and dating relationships.

American students tend to make social commitments only at the last minute. Many Americans want to have the freedom to do what they want,when they want, in order to maximize their chance of having "fun". Chinese students sometimes feel frustrated by this. They feel personally insulted because they interpret it as a sign that the Americans are not truly interested in them. However, this behavior is often a sign of valuing personal freedom, rather than a reflection of their feelings about other people.

The Americans' vague and changing definitions about acquaintances and friendships also puzzle Chinese students. American students use the term "friend" very loosely. They might have one or more friends whom they call "friends with benefits". This fluidity (²»Îȶ¨ÐÔ) in relationship definitions can be very puzzling to someone from a culture that values clearly defined relationships between people.

American college students have "parties" to socialize. The typical American party consists of people talking in small groups or pairs while drinking alcoholic beverages and perhaps snacking on some dry food or " chips and dip" . Loud music may be playing. Department receptions and parties often feature beer or wine.