Researchers who study relationships have discovered that a big difference between those who make new friends easily,and those who don’t,is that socially successful people tend to make eye contact with their conversation partners much more frequently than those who are less successful socially.In fact,you may be able to become much more socially successful by making this one simple change to your behavior.
Most Americans prefer to have a lot of eye contact when they are talking with someone.When a person doesn’t make eye contact with them,they tend to think that the person is hiding something or the person doesn’t believe in himself/herself.
When you are having a conversation and you want to leave a friendly impression,be sure to keep looking at that person frequently while you are talking.If it really bothers you to look directly into another person’s eyes,you can gaze generally at,not above,the eyebrow area or the bridge of the nose;this is close enough to the eye region that you will appear to be looking at the person’s eyes.But neither the hair nor the shoulders have the same effect.Don’t stare at other people too intensely,otherwise,you will look aggressive.
Keep the majority of your focus on the other person.If you glance around the room too much,or look too frequently at other people,your conversation partner may guess that you are looking around for someone else you would rather talk with.
You can lighten your nervousness by smiling more often,nodding,and by gazing at the entire face as well as the eyes.In addition,you can frequently look away for very short periods.
When people get the sense that you are really paying attention to them,they will be much more likely to want to have conversations with you!
21.According to the passage,some people are socially unsuccessful probably because .
A.they don’t like communicating with others
B.they are not good at communicating with strangers
C.they lack eye contact with the people they talk to
D.they feel uncomfortable when making eye contact
答案:C
解析:推理判断题。根据第一段可知与人交谈中善于与对方进行目光交流的人往往善于交际。D项是缺乏目光交流的原因。
22.Which of the following is NOT the impression left by those who don’t make eye contact during the talk?
A.They are not telling truth.
B.They are bored with the partner.
C.They are lacking in confidence.
D.They are aggressive to others.
答案:D
解析:推理判断题。在交谈中,那些不与他人进行目光交流的人给人留下的印象包括A、C项(由第二段第二句可知)以及B项(由第四段第二句可知),所以此题选D项。
23.Besides the eyes of the partner,during the talk,you can gaze at his/her .
A.hair
B.shoulders
C.the bridge of the nose
D.area above the eyebrows
答案:C
解析:推理判断题。根据第三段可知答案。注意文章建议可以去看对方的鼻梁或眼眉,而不是眼眉的上方,另外看对方的头发和肩都没有效果。
24.From the passage,we can learn that .
A.looking away during conversations should always be avoided
B.looking at a person frequently can give him/her a good impression
C.all successful people are good at making eye contact
D.many Americans feel like being stared at for a long time
答案:B
解析:细节理解题。根据第三段第一句可知B项正确;A项的错误从第五段第二句可知;C项的错误在于虽然文章中说善于进行目光交流的人容易在交际上成功,但这不能说明只要取得成功的人一定善于与人进行目光交流;D项错在foralongtime上。
